I love Barbara Kay...
A terrific opinion piece from Barbara Kay in today's National Post on the plight of divorced dads...
About half of all marriages end in divorce. Women are twice as likely to initiate a divorce as men, largely because they can be fairly sure they'll end up with control of the children. Where shared parenting is the default template, divorce rates plummet. Men are six times as likely as women to commit suicide within the first two years after a separation: That they kill themselves from despair rather than their ex-wives for revenge is, ironically, a tragically eloquent rebuttal to the feminist credo that men are inherently dangerous to women. Although 25% of women make more money than their spouses, 97% of support payers are men (even in cases of shared parenting). Mobility decisions favour women: The psychological comfort to a Vancouver mother of moving near her Toronto-based family will be privileged over the psychological devastation the virtual loss of his children causes the Vancouver-bound father.
Misandry in family law begins with an ideology that views children as the property of women, even though many peer-reviewed studies show children want and need both parents, and no studies show sole parenting by a mother serves children's best interests. This ideology is instilled in judges during training sessions featuring feminism-driven materials, and subsequently often plays out as unaccountable kangaroo courts. The result is that an adversarial mother who initiates a divorce against the will of the father --however indifferent her parenting skills, however superb his and even if the children spend their days with nannies or day care workers --pretty well has a lock on sole custody of the children. If she denies rightful access to the father, she will never be punished at all. Conversely, if he withholds money, he will be criminalized: His picture as a "deadbeat dad" may appear on government-sanctioned Internet sites, and if he goes to jail, as is likely, he will serve a longer sentence than cocaine dealers.
posted by GayandRight @ 1:40 PM
3 Comments:
good catch; I missed that story. This is having a ruinous effect on our society, but to speak out against is a thought crime.
Dave.
Thanks for your blog btw
Barbara Kay is spot on.
As anecdotal support, my wife left me and our three children to run off with another fellow some 20 odd years ago. In our divorce settlement I had to agree to no support what so ever in order to secure custody of my children.
It is almost impossible now for a father to get even that hard bargain unless the mother is a certifiable loonie.
I still have a article from the G&M where a reporter was attacked for publishing the facts about spousal abuse .
Seems that he discovered a damaging fact that a large percent of wives attacked their Husband first with some physical harm because they believed he would harm them one day in the future so it was a pre-emptive strike .
This showed that men actually tolerated abuse by females for far too long until they themselves were pushed into a defensive mode which the Police ignored and arrested the Husband anyway or ordered him out of the Home for the safety of the children and the Spouse.
The FemiNazis have such shallow lives that they Nurse on the Federal nipple for Taxpayer hand-out and must Fabricate violence or a Potential violence out of self-preservation to maintain the Male-Bashing Industry and make a career out of it rather than face the reality in Life as we do by getting REAL jobs that bond Society for what we have in common rather than exalt the pockets of hatred as the Norm while we all know it's always a small % of people with the weak part of the Gene-Pool for Morals and self-control.
My Father started to get excessive verbal abuse from my Mother after about 20 years of marriage and a House that was paid-off and a Family car once the Mortgage was over , he was never violent and instilled a respect for Females in general which included Teachers because back then kids feared the School phoning your parents because of bad behaviour in the classroom , so after about a year of the crap and constance whining about her failed life he asked her to shut-up but then he was pushed to the point of leaving because never once did any of us kids see him lay a hand on her or any of the females kids.
My older Sister told me one day that she was shock that he never smacked her years ago merely by the subtle verbal abuse she witnessed while I was too young to fully understand English to spot the Barbs and tirades , so i didn't imagine it like the Men-haters like us to believe and later my older Sister left as well because the abused turned to the remaining kids who were trapped
until they made plans to get out.
As the youngest of the kids I saw my brothers and sisters leave one by one just from the depressing rants and rehashing of the same hatred for the man she had 5 children with but suddenly became a ball busting control freak who ruin her life.
My beef was that when my Dad left he left he didn't take his wife with him , so I was left to bare the brunt of insults and whining because my MOTHER left long ago and the person in the house was a bitter ex-wife tha I was forced By Law to share a Home with because it was in my best interests to be with the maternal Parent and less violent spopuse.
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